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Michael Edward Coe, Jr., 46, beloved husband, father, son, brother, uncle and friend entered into eternal rest suddenly and unexpectedly on Tuesday January 16, 2024. Mike was born strong; he could hold his head up on day one. He was a firecracker through life, always keeping everyone laughing. At Northview high school (class of 1995) he became known for his beautiful singing voice, and for being a friend to all. In his glory days, which he spoke of often, he sang in a punk band and dabbled in writing poetry and music, teaching himself how to play guitar and serenading his loved ones with Tom Waits tunes ad nauseam. His vastly eclectic taste in music and love of conversation meant he could talk to anyone anywhere about music for hours. After high school he received bachelors degrees in psychology and sociology from Grand Valley State University and went on to receive a masters degree in counseling from DePaul University in Chicago. He had an impeccable work ethic and strong sense of duty that propelled him into careers in analysis and inventory that enabled him to provide for a family, his number one priority. Michael had a wild sense of adventure that he only tamed slightly when he met the love of his life and best friend, Jess, on a blind date in 2004, immediately chasing her to Chicago, where they stayed for another ten years before returning home to Michigan. On their first date Jess mentioned her favorite book, and by their second date a week later Michael had already read it. Michael had a passion for literature, collecting and all things vintage, as evidenced by his hundreds of books and records. Jess will always remember their Saturday morning Chicago walks to coffee, used bookstores, and record shops and being dragged to concert after concert. He was such a gentleman. She knew from their first date, by his gentle smile, boisterous laugh, and pure authenticity that he was a keeper and from that day on they were always together.
Michael had a heart for social justice and defending the weak. His way of sticking it to the man was to encourage every wild idea, implausible outcome, or alternative perspective but he always delivered his opinion in a caring and thoughtful way. His tenacity spilled over into all areas of his life. He once decided to run a marathon, and despite the fact that he didn’t train for it whatsoever, he ran two, back to back- with pneumonia. A true dreamer at heart, he was always planning and scheming the next project or adventure. The biggest, most deeply-held dream he ever had in life was to be a father, a dream that finally came true with the birth of his beloved children Isaac and Isla (6 and 5), whom he adored and showered with endless love, treats and toys. Born to be a dad, he was hands-on and would often be found on the floor building lego princess castles or Star Wars ships, wrestling with the kids, and most of all reading to them. He and Isaac bonded by having boxing matches, playing catch, or Minecraft and Madden video games, watching football and the Red Wings, or going to see them live, tinkering with tools and riding matching John Deere tractors in the summer. Isla and her daddy had the closest, sweetest bond. Each morning she’d follow him out the door and sit in the driveway to watch him drive over the hill on his way to work; each evening she’d greet him with an ecstatic hug and the joy of someone you’ve not seen in years. She would never let him leave the house without a kiss and a hug goodbye. They shared a love of Scooby Doo and would more often than not be found snuggled up on the couch enjoying Scooby reruns. He was so excited for the weather to get cold enough to freeze the giant ice rink he hand-crafted for them in the backyard, anxious to teach Isaac how to skate and play hockey. He took care to guard their souls as well, always making sure to get them up, fed, dressed and to Sunday Mass, even if ten minutes late every week. Mike prioritized family above all and insisted on family time on weekends and vacations that are now cherished memories. Isaac wants the world to know that he was so loved and was the best daddy in the world.
Michael had a strong handshake and a gentle demeanor not only with his kids but with everyone he met. He had a way of fully engaging with others while in conversation, its a rare gift that makes the person in the other end feel heard, seen, validated, and excited about whatever they were discussing, because he would show genuine excitement on your behalf. He was excited about anything or anyone that dared to have big ideas and big dreams and he beamed with proud admiration (and that signature twinkle in his eye) at knowing someone he loves who would even think to dream big. He knew how to immediately make you feel safe, welcome. Friendly hellos and investments in your life, he always listened intently for updates and offered wisdom that only someone who has really lived life could give. When you talked to him you could tell he was genuinely interested in who you are and what you were saying and above all made you feel accepted just as you are. He was generous and giving to a fault sometimes, always ready to drop everything and lend a helping hand and was the protector and guardian of everyone in his orbit. He ALWAYS stuck up for the underdog and was fiercely loyal. He was a very special man whose traits are hard to compensate for, and his earthly departure leaves an ache that will be felt in every fiber until we meet again.
Michael is preceded in death by his grandparents, Robert and Norine (Jacobitz) Coe, Mary Catherine Andrews, and is survived by Jess, his loving wife of 16 years, two children who idolized him, Isaac and Isla; parents, Michael Sr. and Rene (Andrews) Coe, Brian and Janine (Naimo) Jones; sister Colleen and Jen Kellogg-Coe; brother, Mark and Alyson (Layle) Coe; brothers and sisters-in-law, Elisabeth (Jones) and Adam Bartrom, Molly (Jones) and Josh Horton, Casey and Jessica (Smith) Jones, Allison Jones and Gary Gordon, Sam Jones and Justin Burnette, and Madeline Jones and David Houseman; nieces, Holly and Caleb Przybylski, Heidi and Daniel Przybylski, Madelynn, Mya, Zoë; nephews, Noah, Sully, Leo, and Arlo; great nieces, Ivy, Iris, and Leena, and a whole slew of aunts, uncles and cousins.
Mass of the Christian Burial will be celebrated on Wednesday, January 24, 11:00 am at Assumption of the Blessed Virgin Mary Church, 6390 Belmont Ave NE, Belmont, MI. Mike will lie in state one hour prior to mass at church starting at 10:00 am. Friends and relatives may meet the family at Beuschel Funeral Home, 5018 Alpine Ave NW, Comstock Park, MI on Tuesday, January 23 from 2:00 - 4:00 and 6:00 - 8:00 pm for a visitation. A rosary will be prayed starting at 7:30 pm. Those who wish may assist the family at Mike Coe's Legacy https://gofund.me/6eeaebfe.